potential mother #3 Flora Mom

Dear Seeking...I read your notice in today's New York Review of Books and am moved to respond.  You may receive many replies of compassion.
 
I lost my mother when I was 13 and her absence changed my life.  I am in a 40 year marriage, I have a son and daughter, now two granddaughters.  I occasionally reflect on what they have that I didn't have.  People who have never known that emptiness have no idea, especially how we have self-created our lives.  Have you read the two books by Hope Edelman: Motherless Daughters and Motherless Mothers?  We can talk more about this if you like.  By the way, I read and love dogs.


Kind regards, 
flora



Dear Seeking... I am greatly moved by your notice in the current New York Review of Books.  Maternal loss is devastating and leaves a permanent emptiness in part of life.  I lost my mother when I was 13 and each passing year brings more unresolved emotions to the front of my heart.  Despite that, I am in a 40 year marriage, have a daughter and son and two granddaughters and a comfortable life.  I understand your need and if you like we can write and look for meaning.  I sent you an email last night but my computer skills are so poor that apparently I pressed the wrong button.  By the way, I also read.  Jane Smiley says it takes 10 hours to read a novel and I'm trying to stay on schedule.  I know about dogs.  When our children were young, our family included a perfect black labrador.  When my son went to college and she died, he insisted we find another dog.  Our new boy is a yellow labrador and came into our family but I was the one he loved most...probably because he and I were together all of the time.  So, life is a series of loves and love's losses.  I hope you are well and that today will be a good day for you.


kind regards,
flora