I am interested in placing an ad for a woman seeking an older woman for friendship and motherly advice. I didn't want to put it under women seeking women and couldn't find a place to situate the ad with the choices listed. Is there a miscellaneous personal section that would be non-sexual in nature so this isn't confused as a particular fetish rather than a serious friendship?
I eagerly awaited the response, hoping that someone would pose a clever alternative. Women seeking women is where this belongs. No further comment. I was on my own. Did I need to
start a new category in the personals that extends beyond soul mates and sex play? Instead of book clubs, mother daughter clubs? Maybe I should start a business as a mother match maker? I'd bestow the name Potential Mother to all the candidates. Of course, I would interview each of them thoroughly first for myself. Could I be the founder, screener and only client? Is it possible to have too many mothers?
I examined the entire classifieds for placement, not just the personals. Volunteers. Would someone volunteer to be my mother? Trades. Mother wanted in exchange for what? What would I trade? Jobs. Hiring someone to be my mother. That would go along with earn a little extra cash. Lost and found. I have lost my mother and would love to find one. Missed connections. This one caught my eye. I am always on the prowl, wondering could this be my mother that I see in this store, on this beach. Could this be my mother waiting for me when I step outside of a dressing room wearing the outfit that makes me shine or should never been seen? Might we have almost met on many occasions? Was there a PM looking for a potential daughter?
When I told Lori about it, she reminded me of the book: Are You My Mother? Though it might make someone think I was an adopted child in search of her biological mother, I still believed this was the right approach for me.
Are You My Mother? I see you browsing in a bookstore, watching the dogs run in the park, savoring your lunch, and wonder: are you the person who can be the mother I never had? Motherless daughter, orphaned at 10, looking to forge a mother-daughter understanding. Married, caring, creative, educated writer, loves conversation, dogs, dance, gardening. If you're looking for a daughter like me, I welcome your response. All serious inquiries considered. Seekingmother@aol.com.
I decided I needed insider information on the city to finish this ad. I had to learn the name of a great independent bookstore, the places the dogs run, a healthy restaurant where I might dine in order to speak to the mother who would best match with me. I required this before I could move forward, I reasoned. Another stall tactic, classic for the wildly unmothered woman, perpetually desperate for advice.